*Disclaimer- Special Thank You to our friends at Top Golf Atlanta-Midtown for sponsoring this post. We were given a date night that allowed us to spend time enjoying our marriage at their location in exchange for being featured in this post! HOWEVER, all of my opinions are completely honest and true accounts of my experience.
Hey Guys! So usually it’s all about the kiddos here on the blog but this time I wanted to get all up in your romance Kool-Aid and ask you a serious question. When is the last time you’ve been on a date? I don’t mean dinner at a restaurant with kids screaming and you and your spouse taking turns feeding them. I don’t mean staying up after they’ve gone to bed. I mean a real date with just the two of you in marital bliss! If you’re like myself and my husband, then the answer is embarrassing! In my son’s 18 months of existence, we went on just two dates prior to last week. If this sounds familiar to you and your spouse, keep reading as we discuss The Importance of Dating in Marriage!
I’ll be honest for a bit, I have real attachment issues to my baby boy! If you’ve been reading the blog for a while then you know that I have anxiety (click here to read) and the thought of leaving him with other people is petrifying to me. My husband on the other hand will run straight out the door when we have a baby sitter. Being that he is in the military, the whole baby sitter thing only comes around twice a year and I can’t say that I am thrilled about taking advantage of it. Besides not being as trusting as I should be, the guilt of leaving him for a couple of hours is REAL! You know the ugly cry? Yeah! it’s like a lot of that.
A couple of months ago I realized that I had been sucking at the wife/mom balance in our marriage. I had no idea how to turn mommy off and turn wifey on. As far as I was concerned, being a mom was a 24/7 job and I was still being a wife but romance was on the back burner in our marriage for sure! He gets off work and takes the responsibility of playing with our son so I can get some work done and we had settled into a routine! One day I realized OMG! Where had our love life gone?
I missed the high school and pre-marriage us! I missed spontaneous date nights and enjoying each other’s company. We both missed dinner without passing baby back and forth across the table so that one of us could finish a meal. I had not carried a purse on an outing in over a year!! I just stuff my wallet in the diaper bag and its shallow but I missed that! I slightly missed picking an outfit without considering if it was easily breastfeedable (holla if you hear me nursing moms). I missed my GUY!
The perfect opportunity came last weekend. We were headed home to visit family in Atlanta…we had a free day…why not? Thursday night we decided to go to Top Golf Midtown in Atlanta. It was the perfect place for our much-needed date night. We finally had the chance to focus on marriage and not just being parents. Top Golf allowed us to have our date activity as well as eat dinner without leaving to go to another location. This made me feel so much better as I wanted to enjoy our night but hurry back to our baby at the end of the night.
First of all, we had a BLAST! Movie dates are fun but it doesn’t give you the chance to interact with one another. With Top Golf, we got the chance to explore our competitive side but also cheer each other on! Can you say TEAMWORK!
Around half way through our game, we decided to take a break and get a bite to eat. My husband enjoyed the chicken sandwich and I had the Chicken and Waffles sliders which were YUMMY! I will also add that the food comes from state of the art chefs. You’re basically getting food from top culinary talents at your convenience.
The next thing you’ll enjoy is the staff! They were AMAZING! Each staff member took the time to make sure we were satisfied with our food and enjoying our time. The attendant for our area also took the time to give me a little lesson in golfing. My husband had a hand up because he had been to Top Golf before but I followed our attendant’s advice and in no time, I felt like I could have won the PGA tour (I mean not really but it sounded good).
At the end of our night we had an amazing time! This was just the night that we needed to get back to the old us and thoroughly enjoy each other’s company. To all you married folks out there, TAKE THE DATE! Mamas fight through the tears and Dads work with your wife. Being a parent is a huge adjustment but it is so important to date in your marriage. Never stop courting each other and doing that thing that made your relationship successful in the first place!It will pay off with many years of a happy marriage and you’ll thank me later .
I want to say a special thank you again to Top Golf Atlanta-Midtown for sponsoring our date night! We truly had a blast and cannot wait to do it again. Be sure to check out your local Top Golf location for your date night, couples outing or party.
If you’re married, comment below and let us know if you have a hard time dating in your marriage? If not, what are some of your favorite date night ideas? We want to hear from YOU!
My husband and I have 5 kids together. Ages ranging from 20 to 2 months. The Kat time we were alone was the drive to the delivery room! Lol. We are planning a weekend getaway for March though and hopefully will be able to go. We don’t have any family where we live so there isn’t much hope of a date before then, but you’re right. It is SO important!
This was such a sweet read! I’ve been married for a little over a year now and agree that date nights are incredibly important. We don’t have kids yet, but still value our time alone together.
Thanks so much for reading! I love the newly wed phase.We had so much fun and freedom when it was just the two of us. Please enjoy it as much as you possibly can. Having children is a beautiful experience in itself but remember to never give up dating and spending time with each other.
This was definitely an awesome read! Dating your spouse is extremely important but sometimes difficult. My husband and I were recently discussing how important it is to make time for us.
Thanks so much for reading! Time is a struggle that eve mom has little of. It is really hard but you have to get a moment to yourselves whenever possible. My son is super young so I’m still working on my attachment issues lol I hope to one day be confident enough to go on vacation with my husband alone. lol wishful thinking. What are your date night goals?
Kendra,
Thanks for leaving your comment. Poor thing! I completely understand not having family around, same for us. You more than deserve a break with 5 kids. I hope that you are able to go on that date night soon. Enjoy yourself mama!