Hi Everyone, we are back with another Military Life post to help you through the tough situations that the military can throw at you. My family and I have been blessed and in many ways we are a rarity. In my husband’s 5 going on 6 years in the Army, we have never gone through a deployment although he is a serial TDYist lol. That’s why I have invited a good friend of mine, Julie Provost from Soldier’s Wife, Crazy Life and Blogging Julie; to help me talk about surviving deployments with great friends. If you like the advice she gives, please hop over to her blog and social sites to learn more useful tips and tricks to survive life in the Military.
There are many different tips and tricks for getting through a deployment. One of the best ways to do so is to have a group of friends to get through the months apart with. They don’t all have to have a deployed husband too but it helps that they can relate to what you are going through and all the emotions a deployment brings.
During deployment: You will have people to hang with
When you have a friend circle, you always have someone to hang out with. Whether it is to have coffee, go out to lunch, or to have a ladies night. Having someone you can call to plan things with is a good way to stay busy. That will help the deployment go by a bit faster and you can make memories together along the way.
During Deployment: You will have people to help you with your kids
If you have children, friends can step in and help you with childcare. They could watch them while you have a doctor’s appointment, or just to get in a mommy break. You can also trade babysitting to get your errands done, or organize your home. Knowing you have people you trust to watch your kids during a deployment will make things a lot easier for you.
During deployment: You will have someone to vent to
When you have people to vent to, you can get through anything. These friends understand what it is like to be away from your spouse for an extended period. They know how lonely the nights can get, or how easily you can get burned out from months of solo parenting. Venting together can help you work through those difficult days.
During deployment: You can work on your goals together
Having goals to work through during a deployment is also a good idea. Working on those goals together with friends can be a lot of fun. You can get together to learn how to cook new meals, exercise, or even potty train your children at the same time. Working on your goals with friends can help you achieve them and not give up.
During deployment: You have people to lean on through the scary parts
Some parts of deployment can be a bit scary, whether it is because of where your spouse is, or just the fear of being alone. Good friends can help with that. You can remind each other of what is going on, assure one another that things will be okay, and be there for each other when one of you is freaking out.
Looking back over my past deployments, I am thankful for the times I had good friends to depend on. Whether it was with the friends whose husbands were deployed with mine, or friends who simply understood this lifestyle, even if their husband was home at the time. We could truly depend on one another, helping each other out when we could, and knowing we had people we could always call if we needed them.
Julie Provost is the owner of Soldier’s Wife, Crazy Life. She is a freelance writer and blogger married to a National Guard soldier and raising three boys. She lives in Tennessee and loves a good book, a nice cup of coffee, and time with friends and family. You can also find her on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.